Students Tilburg University

Training Positive Perfectionism

Many people are perfectionists in one or more areas of their lives. They do their best to do things as well as possible and strive for quality. These people are accurate, reliable, and focused on improvement in their work, for example.

For others, perfectionism has become more than a way of working; they are constantly trying to be the best version of themselves. They expect themselves to perform well to very well in all areas of their lives. Think of education, work, social contacts, relationships, sports, nutrition, appearance, and emotions.

This form of perfectionism can cause you constantly do things flawlessly and to focus on what is not yet good enough. The expectations of yourself (and others) are not realistic. Because these high demands cannot be reached or take a heavy toll, your perfectionism affects your personal well-being. Students regularly mention complaints that are related to their perfectionism. For example, a constant feeling of being rushed, finding it hard to relax, feelings of guilt, anxiety, fear of failure, panic, gloom, irritation, or shame.

The training Positive Perfectionism was developed to let you experience that you really are not the only one, to gain insight and get advice in a group context, and to exchange experiences. You take a first step in letting go of your compulsory perfectionism and learn how you can give it a positive turn.

Objective

This training is intended for Tilburg University students for whom perfectionism goes hand in hand with:

  • a lot of “have to” and “must”
  • panic when it is not successful
  • always going on and on
  • difficulty relaxing
  • criticizing yourself (and others)
  • fear of failure

And those who:

  • want to work in a group on their personal development
  • would like to change their perfectionism
  • are prepared to make other choices
  • want to set themselves realistic goals
  • are willing to change their perfectionist behavior

The training

This training provides the opportunity to reflect within a small group on perfectionism in your life. During the training, you will start to change your perfectionist behavior and develop your own perspective on Positive Perfectionism.

Regarding Positive Perfectionism, you can think of:

  • having realistic expectations of yourself and others;
  • recognizing and respecting your limitations; setting realistic goals
  • making conscious choices and live by them
  • seeing yourself as a starting point for development (versus; comparing yourself to others)
  • relaxation follows effort (relaxation is meaningful)
  • having enough consideration for the things that are going well
  • being able to settle for less when needed

The training is aimed at taking a number of steps in the right direction. You build on what works and change what does not work. In the first session, you formulate a concrete goal for change and directly start with the first step.
You look at your own thoughts, feelings, and behavior from a different perspective. And after the training, you are able to adopt more helpful thoughts and behaviors.
Stress management is also discussed, in which a distinction is made between preventing stress, signaling stress, and adjusting in case of stress.
In the last session of the training you reflect on the new insights and skills; what have you learned, what have you already changed, what questions do you still have and what do you want to focus on in the future.

Working method

The training consists of 4 sessions of 1.5 hours in a small group (6–12 participants). Participants are expected to attend each session.
During the training, we will work in groups of two or three.

Information about the training

Planning October 2020

October 1, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)
October 8, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)
October 29, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)
November 5, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)

>> Maximum number of participants reached <<

You can still sign up for a reserve seat or for the training in November.

Planning November 2020

November 12, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)
November 19, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)
November 26, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)
December 3, from 10:45 - 12:30 hrs (EN)

Trainer

Margreet van Laarhoven, student psychologist

Location

Online (Canvas)

Costs and participation

One-off € 36

Register

Via the link at the bottom of this page

Are you interested in the training, but unable to attend the scheduled dates? Then please let us know of your interest by e-mail. You can send an e-mail to m.m.p.vanlaarhoven@tilburguniversity.edu.

Preparation

During the four sessions, different topics are discussed. There is room for interaction, questions, and discussion. In order to make the best possible use of the available time, participants are expected to work out some questions or registration assignments themselves before the start of the training and between sessions. Below, you will find the preparations for the first session.

  1. Please take a moment to consider the questions below. Your answers will be the starting point for the first session.
    • What makes you want to hold on to perfectionism (the benefits)?
    • When does perfectionism work for you
  2. Mention one or more learning objectives for the training.
    What do you want to learn, practice, discuss?
    • Try to formulate the learning goals positively (what dó you want) and concretely.